15-year-old boy: “Last year I was in love. She didn’t like me, and I suffered. What I didn’t do is to follow her around like a puppy… my grandmother told me to wait until I’m not in love with that girl… My grandmother is wise; she was right. I forget all about my grief in a few short months.”
When we fall in love with people that don’t love us back, we think we can’t help it. However, even though you can’t control with whom you fell in love, you have a bit of control if you stay in love.
Love is chemical. When you fell in love with the right person, your brain producers happy chemicals and happy thoughts. Yet, when you fell in love with the wrong person, the love you feel becomes poisonous.
15-year-old girl: “I’m in love with a classmate. He ignores me like I don’t exist… But he’s so cute… I must do whatever it takes for us to be together… I was sad that he doesn’t like me, but now I’m angry; he must, he must like me; otherwise, my life is over.”
45-year-old wife and mother: “I’m still in love with my husband. Sadly for me, he’s in love with the secretary. My sister tells me to leave him because he doesn’t deserve me. I wish things to be that easy. I can’t just pick up things and go. I have responsibilities; my children need their father, and (to be quite honest) I can’t imagine my life without him.”
Those who have never loved someone that didn’t respond whit love, can’t imagine a life together with someone that loves somebody else. However, love and life are not always simple and straightforward. Sometimes, things get complicated, and you might feel you have no choice.
Listen, happiness is a choice. It’s a choice not by waking up in the morning and saying “today I choose to be happy”; it’s a choice buy waking up in the morning and saying to yourself “today I’ll have the behaviors and actions that bring me happiness.”
In full honesty, I don’t know anyone who has never loved someone that didn’t love them back. Do you? We all get through that at a point or another in our life. But the sooner, the better; sooner things are less complicated; sooner, loving someone who doesn’t deserve you is just chemicals in your body; later, those chemicals are followed by negative thoughts and fears (sometimes the scary idea of ending up lonely).
So, the best thing you can do is to put an end to your misery as soon as possible. Yes, it might be hard but not impossible.
However, until the day you can say “I had enough of this; I want sunshine in my life”, check out the following 15 of the best quotes about loving someone who doesn’t love you back so that you understand you’re not alone and how others get through it.
1. I hate it when I can’t stop thinking about that one person and deep down inside I know they probably haven’t thought about me once.
2. The biggest weakness of a person is not being selfish, amorous, wild or egotistical, but stubbornly loving someone who doesn’t love you.
This quote is so true! Yes, love requires you to be selfless, tolerance and understanding… But that is true only when the love you feel is a two-way street – your love is rewarded with being loved. Therefore, when you think you’re not loved, know that you’re alone in that relationship. You are the one, the only one, walking both lanes. Get selfish in the sense that you think of yourself, protecting yourself and start walking a different path.
3. I was so in love with you that I ignored how horribly you treated me.
4. You broke my heart into millions of pieces and still I cannot blame you for feeling this way.
5. If you constantly have to tell someone the same exact thing about how you feel and they don’t change it, understand they don’t respect you.
6. Unrequited love is the hardest of them all, hoping for something that might never just happen.
When we love someone that doesn’t love us back, for a while, we are optimistic and do all sorts of things that don’t make us proud. As time is passing, if you don’t put an end to your misery, you might feel that love is something creepy, something to be avoided because it’s too hard to bear.
Perhaps, you have no control over who you love… If that is true, the other person doesn’t either. And, if you (really) think about it, it’s easier to control who not to love than who you want to love. Is it not?
7. There’s a difference between someone who wants you and someone who would do anything to keep you. Remember that.
8. I will never be good enough for you. I got that.
9. And then karma whispered: “You’ll fall in love with someone who will not love you back, for not loving someone who did”
10. It’s hard to admit that someone doesn’t love you back. So, you hold on to them until you have no choice but to admit it.
11. You stabbed me then pretended you were the one who was bleeding.
12. Don’t feel sad over someone who gave up on you, feel sorry for them because they gave up on someone who would have never given up on them.
13. It’s better to have nobody than to have someone who is half there or doesn’t want to be there.
14. Trying to be friends with someone who you know will never love you back hurts. Being around them makes you simultaneously the happiest and saddest you’ve ever been.
15. No, no you don’t get it. Loving someone that doesn’t love you back is one thing. Loving someone who you think loves you back, then finding out they never did is a completely different thing. It crushes you. You think everything is great, and you’re so happy, then everything is ripped right out from underneath you. It hurts like hell, and you’ll never get it until you experience it.
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By Tess Griman — Written on Oct 09, 2021
A good love makes your heart soar, fills your stomach with butterflies, and fills your head with pictures of a future together. But a bad love can leave you broken and wishing you'd never known this person in the first place.
What’s worse is that we don’t always know when the person we love is actually bad for us. Sometimes we think that’s just how love is supposed to be. Or maybe you are "accepting the love you think you deserve," as author Stephen Chbosky once said.
In a perfect world, we’d all have and know only that kind of love all the time — but we don’t live in a perfect world. So sometimes, we fall in love with someone who does more harm than good.
Things might get to a point where we just can't take it anymore and the only thing to do is leave. And when we finally find the strength to do that, only then do we see just how badly they treated us.
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Without an understanding friend to lean on, heartbreak can feel really lonely. When there's no one else to talk to, sad but inspirational love quotes are reassuring. Take, for instance, Sylvia Plath's quote, “Perhaps someday I’ll crawl back home, beaten, defeated. But not as long as I can make stories out of my heartbreak, beauty out of sorrow.”
Sometimes it takes sad quotes to make us realize that love is the greatest and most painful force on earth. The saddest quotes strike a chord with anyone experiencing heartache. Like Meredith Taylor's words, "My heart no longer felt as if it belonged to me. It now felt as it had been stolen, torn from my chest by someone who wanted no part of it.”
But wise words about breakups can also come in the form of empowering quotes that encourage you to pick yourself back up when you're feeling broken.
Here are 65 “no more love” quotes about the heartbreak of giving up on a relationship with someone you love.
1. "I'm tired of fighting. For once I want to be fought for."
2. "The moment you start to wonder if you deserve better, you do." — David Williams
3. "Nothing hurts more than being disappointed by the single person you thought would never hurt you." — Ayo Makun
4. "Someone shouldn't need to be faced with your absence to value your presence." — Nitya Prakash
5. "There is a difference between giving up and knowing when you have had enough." — Joanne Reed
6. "Apology accepted. Trust denied." — Tony Reeves
7. "Just because I'm strong enough to handle the pain, doesn't mean I deserve it."
8. “We accept the love we think we deserve.” ― Stephen Chbosky
9. "Your worst battle is between what you know and what you feel." — Alex Haditaghi
10. "It is a lonely feeling when someone you care about becomes a stranger." — Lemony Snicket
11. "You see a person's true colors when you are no longer beneficial to their life." — Lovely Goyal
12. "She didn't leave you for making too many mistakes, she left because you made the same mistake too many times." — Theresa Fearon
13. “I miss your smile... but I miss mine more.” ― Laurel House
14. “It is in that moment, when you really lay down your cards and see the relationship for what it was, that you'll find the freedom to kick it in the ass and let it go.” ― Greg Behrendt
15. “No matter how bad you want a person, if your hearts are in two different places, you’ll have to pass and move on.” ― Alexandra Elle
16. “I was fine before you came into my life. And I bet I’ll be just fine without you in it again.” ― Nina Ardianti
17. “Being close but feeling far, talking but not being heard, loving but not being loved, that is the painful reality of a dying relationship.” ― Steve Maraboli
18. “I loved him, every inch of his being, but I realized one day; if loving him meant losing me, then loving him was not enough anymore.” ― Nikki Rowe
19. “Sometimes it's better to end something and try to start something new than imprison yourself in hoping for the impossible.” ― Karen Salmansohn
20. “Know this: whenever you think of leaving, a part of you has already left. But it’s never too late to get it back.” ― Kamand Kojouri
21. “You don't walk away to prove your worth. You walk away because you allowed someone else to dictate your value and you found yourself believing it.” ― Shannon L. Alder
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22. “Somewhere underneath it all, I know he doesn't deserve to take up space in my brain.” ― Susane Colasanti
23. “I stayed there loving you, though the love made me, not sad, but I guess melancholy, for a reason I couldn’t point to.” ― Daniel Handler
24. “Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option.” ― Mark Twain
25. “She took a step and didn't want to take any more, but she did.” ― Markus Zusak
26. “You cannot be with someone just because you don’t want to hurt him. You have your own happiness to think about.” ― Melissa de la Cruz
27. “The saddest thing is to be a minute to someone, when you've made them your eternity.” ― Sanober Khan
28. “When you leave, weary of me, without a word I shall gently let you go.” ― Kim Sowol
29. “We walked to meet each other up at the time of our love and then we have been irresistibly drifting in different directions, and there's no altering that.” ― Leo Tolstoy
30. “To truly love is to have the courage to walk away and let the other person who wishes to be free go no matter how much it hurts.” ― Taylor Swift
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31. “It is better to be hated for what you are than to be loved for what you are not.” ― Andre Gide
32. “If you ever find yourself in the wrong story, leave.” ― Mo Willems
33. “The only thing more unthinkable than leaving was staying; the only thing more impossible than staying was leaving.” ― Elizabeth Gilbert
34. “I don’t want just words. If that’s all you have for me, you’d better go.” ― F. Scott Fitzgerald
35. “I didn't leave because I stopped loving you, I left because the longer I stayed the less I loved myself.” ― Rupi Kaur
36. “I'm guilty of giving people more chances than they deserve but when I'm done, I'm done.” ― Turcois Ominek
37. “I have not broken your heart - you have broken it; and in breaking it, you have broken mine.” ― Emily Brontë
38. “Well, you can't have heartbreak without love. If your heart was really broken, then at least you know you really loved him.” ― Leila Sales
39. “If you have to speculate if someone loves you and wants to be with you, chances are they don't. It's not that complicated. Love, in most cases, betrays the one feeling it. Don't waste moments waiting and wondering. Don't throw away your time dreaming of someone that doesn't want you. No one is that amazing, certainly not the one who would pass you up.” ― Donna Lynn Hope
40. “We hurt so much because we have lost a part of ourselves. If we have loved much, we must have given much also, and when everything's over, we feel as though we have lost everything.” ― Jocelyn Soriano
41. “My heart no longer felt as if it belonged to me. It now felt as it had been stolen, torn from my chest by someone who wanted no part of it.” ― Meredith Taylor
42. “The only place I ever felt at home was with you. There isn’t a place for me anywhere anymore... I’ve been evicted.” ― Ranata Suzuki
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43. "Half of my heart's got a grip on the situation. Half of my heart takes time. Half of my heart's got the right mind to tell you that I can't keep loving you with half of my heart, with half of my heart." — John Mayer
44. "When all you wanted was to be wanted, wish you could go back and tell yourself what you know now. Back then I swore I was going to marry him someday but I realized some bigger dreams of mine." — Taylor Swift
45. "For so many months I was wishing that you, that you would stop pretending. Remember all those countless nights when I told you I'd loved you? And you'd never forget it, oh, just forget it." — Modern Baseball, "Your Graduation"
46. "You know you can't give me what I need. And even though you mean so much to me, I can't wait through everything." — A Day to Remember, "If It Means A Lot To You"
47. "We still talk like every day. But we don’t talk in the same way that we used to, I’ll move on and forget you. We could never see eye to eye." — Neck Deep, "A Part of Me"
48. “You flew off with the wings of my heart and left me flightless.” — Stelle Atwater
49. “Sometimes it takes a heartbreak to shake us awake and help us see we are worth so much more than we’re settling for.” — Mandy Hale
50. "I’m not crying because of you; you’re not worth it. I’m crying because my delusion of who you were was shattered by the truth of who you are.” — Steve Maraboli
51. “So it’s true when all is said and done, grief is the price we pay for love.” — E.A. Bucchianeri
52. “Perhaps someday I’ll crawl back home, beaten, defeated. But not as long as I can make stories out of my heartbreak, beauty out of sorrow.” — Sylvia Plath
53. “You left with my soul in your fists and my heart in your teeth, and I don’t want either of them back.” — Colleen Hoover
54. “Loving you was like going to war; I never came back the same.” — Warsan Shire
55. “What a painful thing to taste forever in the eyes of someone who doesn’t see the same.” — Perry Poetry
56. “I am hopelessly in love with a memory. An echo from another time, another place.” — Michael Faudet
57. “I will never regret you or say I wish I’d never met you. Because once upon a time you were exactly what I needed.” — Bob Marley
58. “I love you, but I hate you. I miss you, but I’m better off without you. I want you out of my life, but I never want to let you go.” — Minhal Mehdi
59. "And now I'll do what's best for me." — John Green
60. "The most painful thing is losing yourself in the process of loving someone too much, and forgetting that you are special too." — Ernest Hemingway
61. “I will not try to convince you to love me, to respect me, to commit to me. I deserve better than that; I am better than that... goodbye.” ― Steve Maraboli
62. “When you loved someone and had to let them go, there will always be that small part of yourself that whispers, 'What was it that you wanted and why didn't you fight for it?'” ― Shannon L. Alder
63. “You fell in love with a storm. Did you really think you would get out unscathed?” ― Nikita Gill
64. “There is an ocean of silence between us... and I am drowning in it.” ― Ranata Suzuki
65. “I cannot compromise my respect for your love. You can keep your love, I will keep my respect.” ― Amit Kalantri
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Tess Griman is a writer whose work focuses on relationships, astrology, and pop culture.