Okay so this is the 3rd time that has happened(once a few weeks ago)..here what went down: Show The guy isn't a texter. If good texting is of utmost importance to you, then find another guy. But if he's got enough other good traits for you to continue seeing him, find a way to communicate which doesn't involve texting.
And I think it never hurts for you to suggest a date after he's already taken you on a few. Link to postShare on other sitessalparadisePosted July 9, 2017 salparadise
Posted July 9, 2017
Ugh, if I was trying to date someone who was making no effort, playing coy and not reciprocating, I'd lose interest too. I don't know how this mentality still exists in the 21st century. I cringe when I read the line "see how much effort he puts out to gauge his interest." Seems to me you've gauged it- what do those websites say to do if he just gets bored?
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Posted July 9, 2017 He's not that into you. If you're ever confused by a guy's behavior, that is almost always going to be your answer.
Link to postShare on other sites2 Link to postShare on other sitesMichelle ma BellePosted July 9, 2017 Michelle ma Belle
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Agreed.
Texter or not, when someone is into you, especially a guy, they'll go out of their way to see you and and be with you.
This guy sounds like he's either not that into you any longer or he's a super lazy dater, in which case, do you really want to be with someone who is lazy about seeing you??
I know I wouldn't.
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Posted July 9, 2017 have you met this guy? http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/628811-she-leaves-me-then-comes-back-then-leaves
my advice is pretty much the same. just swap the genders. Link to postShare on other sites2 Link to postShare on other sitesGaetaPosted July 9, 2017 Gaeta
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So everything was perfect till after your 3rd date, right
And how many dates is considered *the beginning*? Don't you think that those 3 dates were the beginning and it's time for you to reciprocate? Men are not made of stone and they also need to feel they are being appreciated. The 3rd date should be organized and paid by the woman. Many men after 3 dates would think you are the one not interested.
It's time for you to call him, make an invitation, and treat him.
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Posted July 9, 2017 (edited) That depends upon how much you want to date this guy. He didn't really make a date with you--he just mentioned something in passing and you took that for concrete plans. Did you ask him for clarification as to if he was in fact asking you out?
Here's the thing that's jumping out at me: Meaning: you didn't really have plans. This was nebulous at best, but you think something concrete was planned.
It sounds to me as if he was seeing if you were going to be arsed enough to make plans and you didn't. You've been sitting back waiting to be served, so he may be interpreting your behavior as disinterest, so he's not going to exercise himself for someone who doesn't seem all that interested herself.
No, you didn't have anything planned based upon what you said above. What is wrong with you setting up a date? He's already extended himself 3 times and you're complaining because you had to do it once? Do you want to date or do you want to be waited on hand and foot?
You are emotionally invested. Otherwise, you wouldn't be all in your feelings about this.
So now, you're down to keeping score? Giving to get is a really bad way to conduct a relationship... this tack will never work out to your advantage. I recommend you lose this frame of mind if you want to date in 2017.
It sounds more like you're not interested. Yes you are overthinking this.
You should move on and not date if you can't handle reciprocity.
His actions have been more than reasonable. Yours haven't. He's planned and followed through on 3 dates in 3 weeks, yet you've dropped the ball in terms of demonstrating your interest by planning the 4th date yourself. The 5th date, he just gave up because you're too invested in keeping score.
Unrealistic expectations are resentments under construction. Edited July 9, 2017 by kendahke
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You have to wait on him that's not how to suppose to be. Really know one side of a guy when you chat with him through text. When you two meet in person that all changes. You can't expect him to text if he's not a good text as mentioned already. My advise is if you really like this guy in person, they see where it goes. I know you want love and you want it now and can't wait . So give him 3 weeks and if you don't hear back from him? Then you just don't bother to contact him again and move on, but next time find a guy that is really into you (head-over-heels) type someone with healthier ego these guys are happy, confident and have a prospective in life. When people make plans and doesn't follow through?Akrasia is the state of acting against your better judgment. It is when you do one thing even though you know you should do something else. Loosely translated, you could say that akrasia is procrastination or a lack of self-control. Akrasia is what prevents you from following through on what you set out to do.
What do you say to an inconsistent man?The best way to deal with emotional inconsistency is to speak to them about it. You can tell them that the other day you greeted them, but they did not acknowledge you. And then you can enquire if they are okay. Doing so will give them a message that you are aware of what is going on.
Why does he keep reaching out if he doesn't want a relationship?He's insecure.
A guy who says he doesn't want a relationship but keeps you around anyway is a guy who is most likely insecure. A guy who is insecure has difficulty making clear decisions. He says he doesn't want to be in a relationship, but he then wavers, wondering if he's made the right choice.
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