I know you want your ex back. But you’re also thinking about moving on. You know that person has faults but your heart still tells you to go back, thinking about how good they are sometimes. You just want to be with that person again, for better or for worse. And guess what? More than 80% of us think of that when we break up. Then you cry, and maybe even look up to the sky, maybe even pray and think, ‘Please… Just let me get back with my ex. I hope my ex is just making a mistake and he/she wasn’t thinking it through. I know we are perfect for each other. I want to just call my ex up and say “I love you”.’ Then you look at your phone every half an hour, check your messenger, facebook, instagram, twitter, and heck… email inbox, to see if your ex would want to talk to you, all ready to get back together. STOP. IT’S ALL IN YOUR HEAD. Guess what? Your ex wanted to break up with you because he/she thinks that something is wrong in your relationship. That’s it’s not going to work out. Well, at least, your ex thinks that you’re not worth the effort. Sorry to break it to you, honey, that’s the hard truth. Remember my other post? Everyone has faults and problems. If your partner wants to breakup with you, it means that they don’t love you enough and don’t want to work things out with you. So how can you get your ex back if they think you’re not worth it? You need to make them feel you are worth it. You need to increase your value. You need to make them feel you’re too busy for them because (a) your life is wonderful (b) you have many people who would want to be with you. As an example, imagine there’s a pair of shoes you could have got for $50. You quite like it, but you thought it was too expensive so you left. The next day, you passed by again and people started lining up in front of the store, just for those pair of shoes. The price of those shoes became $150. Would you feel like you’ve missed out? That’s exactly how we want your ex to feel. That he/she missed out. You need to make your ex feel that you love yourself. If you love yourself, people will love you, including your ex. So here’s what you have to do:
While you are doing all these, don’t even try to think about your ex or what he/she would like. Do what YOU like. Be the best version of yourself. I won’t be surprised if your ex starts contacting you again in whichever way. Most of them do. And when he/she contacts you again, just treat them like an acquaintance, never treat them like an ex. Be nice. If you don’t feel that you’re ready to speak to him/her, then just ignore it. If they ask to meet, don’t do that because although you look all healed, I know it will still hurt when you meet again. Don’t just start the relationship again after only a few calls/contact. Afterall, your value is much higher now. Your ex is just another pursurer. Let them wait a while and take as much time as you want to evaluate the person again before you get back. You might even find someone who loves you more that your ex! === I’ve been dumped by different people before, I can’t even count. Even when all my friends were getting married, I was the one left behind. Being an ambitious and driven woman, it’s not a good feeling for me. I felt like I’m not good enough. So I researched online, read books, watched videos… they all said different things about how to get my ex back. So I tested all the strategies out there every single time I broke up, many of those strategies didn’t work — it just pushed him away further. After lots and lots of trial and error, I finally created my own process to attract my ex back. I started applying the process and my exes always came back, so I can have a CHOICE and power to decide how my love life should be. Not just have my boyfriend decide my fate. If you also want to take back control of your life too, join my free training to learn more: https://ygscholars.ac-page.com/how-to-get-your-ex-back-in-30-days-without-becoming-someone-else?test=true How can I get my ex to talk back?Snag your ex's eye by reaching back out, spending time together, reminding them of happy memories, and acting casual and confident. Finally, discuss getting back together. Talk about what went wrong in the past and let your ex know that you're willing to work to be a better partner.
How do I build communication with my ex?Communicating with your ex. Avoid blaming yourself or your partner.. Agree not to let your own relationship issues come into the discussion.. Create some rules together about how to manage meetings.. If the conversation breaks down, agree to stop and arrange to continue at another time.. |