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Do you remember the game “Twenty Questions?” You could ask twenty questions to identify what thing the other person was thinking about. Here’s a variation on that, for your next dinner date or when you have some spare time. Using the questions below, you can find out a little more about your partner and vice versa. These questions will help you go a little deeper than discussing work, kids, vacations, or sports. Interestingly these are the kinds of questions couples often ask each other in the early stage of a relationship. But as time hurtles forward, these great questions get neglected and then abandoned. For an interesting and stimulating conversation, try these questions to discover or rediscover who your partner is. If you’re having trouble even getting a conversation going with your partner, click here for help. The one quality to keep in mind for the questions below is to treat the responses with respect. Try not to argue or negatively judge any of the responses. Be like a compassionate reporter who is writing an interesting story. Here is what you can ask your partner (or that your partner can ask you) – you can even test how you each think the other would answer the question first: 1. If you could change only one thing in your life, what would that be and why? 2. In a regular day, what do you find yourself thinking about the most? 3. If you could write a song about your life, what type of music would you use? 4. What things in your life bring you the greatest pleasure? 5. What do you feel is your greatest accomplishment in your life? Did other people help to make that happen? 6. In what settings are you the happiest / eager / most comfortable? 7. What things do you look forward to each day? In your life? 8. If you had three wishes that would come true, what would they be? 9. What other things would you want to change now, and why? 10. What major regret do you have so far in your life? Is it too late to change it? 11. What would be my ideal romantic date? 12. Is there a belief or attitude that seems to interfere with creating or pursuing a big dream? 13. What are a couple of things that you appreciate about our relationship and why do these things seem significant? 14. In what situations do you feel most afraid or insecure? 15. What would you like to do outdoors that you have not done before? Are there any extreme sports that you’d like to try? 16. What country would you like to visit that you haven’t visited yet? 17. What family member did you most admire when you were a child? 18. What activities did your mother/father do that you most wish he’d taught you? 19. What do you most wish you’d learned from your mother/father? 20. Name 3 things that most excite your imagination when you imagine doing them? 21. What question about our money or future spending do you find hard to ask? 22. What are your favorite things to spend money on? 23. Who are you most envious of? For the brave ones of you, enter your name and email address here to see 10 more questions that get a little more personal, and to find a printable version of all the questions: 24. What do you want to initiate in the bedroom that you’ve never risked? 25. What would you most like me to initiate? 26. Will you share a favorite sexual fantasy? 27. What celebrity or athlete would you most like to go on a date with? 28. Where do you most like me to touch you? 29. How do you like to be kissed? 30. Do you like to talk or be quiet when we are making love? 31. Where is your favorite place to have sex? 32. Do you like to talk dirty? 33. Whose body do you most envy? I think it is hard to love someone or something if you don’t have some emotional understanding or feel for it. You also can’t love something you didn’t know existed. I hope you find this voyage of discovery satisfying. Keep stretching and growing, Dr. Peter Pearson Relevant Articles: Have something to say?Inline Feedbacks View all comments These are excellent questions for both newly dating partners and couples who have been together for years. I will share these with the couples I see for therapy. Thank you! Good questions! But I would always emphasise the importance to NOT go for sore spots, hidden/shameful secrets and old hurts… especially not, when you are on a dinner date;)
margot maurer 8 years ago I too am a family/ couples’ therapist, a consultant, a gerontologist, a professional mediator, an executive coach, a mother and a daughter. I always wear many different hats as do the two of you. I used to be able to ask these types of questions to my husband. i knew it was time to leave when he became elusive , rather than transparent in his responses. What do the two of you think about this type of response, frequently given by some spouses. I think it means they are frightened about digging deeper and with intimacy issues. Dr. Alexander Kazan 8 years ago I like the list of 20 questions. Of course I’d make sure my clients will only be taking two or three of these to the dinner table, or the date would turn into an interview. The additional questions are a little out there for a normal everyday couple. I’m not sure if the dinner table at a restaurant would be the right place for these kind of questions, perhaps I’d save them for the bedroom talk. Over all very good ideas here. Thank you for getting the list together.  Margot- Dr. Peter Pearson 8 years ago Glad you appreciate the questions. Please think about them as guides to create your own questions for yourself or couples you work with. Obviously this is not an exhaustive list – I just want to get the conversational ball rolling for couples who have been or felt disconnected. Elusiveness is something am disturbed about when having this kind of discussion with girlfriend. For me am open and wouldn’t mind talking about some past hurts and secrets but I find that each time I bring them, my girlfriend starts getting too tired or suddenly remembers that she has something to do. I find that very frustrating and I wonder if she is in the relationship for real. Though we are not married but I think if it comes to making a decision about that, I will always have second thoughts. Dr. Peter Pearson 7 years ago Hi Bryan – The 20 questions exercise is designed to explore each other’s ideas in a (hopefully) safe way. This exercise is not designed to discuss past hurts and secrets — past hurts and secrets are good to discuss if they are thought to influence the relationship in its present form I tried these with my girlfriend and they were a lot of fun.. Cheers 🙂 Timo – thanks for the feedback and your willingness to experiment – ongoing experimenting is one way to keep relationships feeling alive tried this with my wife, it is so exciting to see her stumbling in some questions Mr Mohale – glad it triggered excitement. Stay curious and open to discovery. I see you don’t monetize your website, don’t waste your traffic, you can earn additional bucks every month. A new Question: “what do you love mostly about your partner?” Kiona Dawghoused 3 years ago Life without my husband was a real mess for me and my children. i wanted a dramatic change and I thought love spell could be the solution. After discussing the resolution with Him, he gave me hope that he will restore my marriage. I felt confident that he will actually make my husband to return home and he did! It’s fantastic what this great spell caster has done for me, his help is priceless! I don’t know what I would have done without his help, He does his job so well he is organized and highly functional, i believe he is the best service to use i can count on when it comes to restoring relationship, I was floored that his worked was perfect, if you need help,______________Robinsonbuckler { @ hotmail . } com Whitney Houghen 3 years ago wow I love these questions for couples. I have been married for over a year now and I have been thinking of a way to bond with my husband. This will come in handy when we have our date night Hello, every time i used to check webpage posts here in the early I like someone also. But that person does not know that I like him? So what can I do. If you have any ideas please tell me. Thanks to my father who told me about this web site, this webpage is in fact amazing. Hi there to all, because I am genuinely keen of reading this blog’s post to be updated daily. Elena Leblanc 2 years ago These a really good questions, great. We enjoyed it. It is a little bit like groozers we also liked a lot.
My partner and I live in different cities working. We are having trust issues and she is asking for a break up. We have a child together so i want to marry her early next year 2021. Now she told me she is not ready yet for me to go and see her parents. What should I do ? Yo, man. Just do what she says. I learnt a lady likes to be listened to. Man, just listen to her. what’s something you want to try but dont want to be judged for in the bedroom
These are excellent questions for both newly dating partners and couples who have been together for years. I will share these with the couples I see for therapy. Thank you! Alexander Maina 4 months ago We knew you were a guy ffs a couple a statements bounced right off the page at us #feminist Peter Pearson, Ph.D.Dr. Peter Pearson, Ph.D., Relationship & Teamwork Expert for Entrepreneur Couples Pete has been training and coaching couples to become a strong team since 1984 when he co-founded The Couples Institute with his psychologist wife, Dr. Ellyn Bader. Their popular book, “Tell Me No Lies,” is about being honest with compassion and growing stronger as a couple. Pete has been featured on over 50 radio and television programs including “The Today Show,” "Good Morning America,” and "CBS Early Morning News,” and quoted in major publications including “The New York Times,” “Oprah Magazine,” “Redbook,” “Cosmopolitan,” and “Business Insider.” Couples NewsletterLearn how to improve your relationship. SIGN UP FREE >> What’s Trending:Topics:
Peter Pearson, Ph.D.Dr. Peter Pearson, Ph.D., Relationship & Teamwork Expert for Entrepreneur Couples Pete has been training and coaching couples to become a strong team since 1984 when he co-founded The Couples Institute with his psychologist wife, Dr. Ellyn Bader. Their popular book, “Tell Me No Lies,” is about being honest with compassion and growing stronger as a couple. Pete has been featured on over 50 radio and television programs including “The Today Show,” "Good Morning America,” and "CBS Early Morning News,” and quoted in major publications including “The New York Times,” “Oprah Magazine,” “Redbook,” “Cosmopolitan,” and “Business Insider.” Have something to say?Inline Feedbacks View all comments These are excellent questions for both newly dating partners and couples who have been together for years. I will share these with the couples I see for therapy. Thank you! Good questions! But I would always emphasise the importance to NOT go for sore spots, hidden/shameful secrets and old hurts… especially not, when you are on a dinner date;) margot maurer 8 years ago I too am a family/ couples’ therapist, a consultant, a gerontologist, a professional mediator, an executive coach, a mother and a daughter. I always wear many different hats as do the two of you. I used to be able to ask these types of questions to my husband. i knew it was time to leave when he became elusive , rather than transparent in his responses. What do the two of you think about this type of response, frequently given by some spouses. I think it means they are frightened about digging deeper and with intimacy issues. Dr. Alexander Kazan 8 years ago I like the list of 20 questions. Of course I’d make sure my clients will only be taking two or three of these to the dinner table, or the date would turn into an interview. The additional questions are a little out there for a normal everyday couple. I’m not sure if the dinner table at a restaurant would be the right place for these kind of questions, perhaps I’d save them for the bedroom talk. Over all very good ideas here. Thank you for getting the list together. Margot- Dr. Peter Pearson 8 years ago Glad you appreciate the questions. Please think about them as guides to create your own questions for yourself or couples you work with. Obviously this is not an exhaustive list – I just want to get the conversational ball rolling for couples who have been or felt disconnected. Elusiveness is something am disturbed about when having this kind of discussion with girlfriend. For me am open and wouldn’t mind talking about some past hurts and secrets but I find that each time I bring them, my girlfriend starts getting too tired or suddenly remembers that she has something to do. I find that very frustrating and I wonder if she is in the relationship for real. Though we are not married but I think if it comes to making a decision about that, I will always have second thoughts. Dr. Peter Pearson 7 years ago Hi Bryan – The 20 questions exercise is designed to explore each other’s ideas in a (hopefully) safe way. This exercise is not designed to discuss past hurts and secrets — past hurts and secrets are good to discuss if they are thought to influence the relationship in its present form I tried these with my girlfriend and they were a lot of fun.. Cheers 🙂 Timo – thanks for the feedback and your willingness to experiment – ongoing experimenting is one way to keep relationships feeling alive tried this with my wife, it is so exciting to see her stumbling in some questions Mr Mohale – glad it triggered excitement. Stay curious and open to discovery. I see you don’t monetize your website, don’t waste your traffic, you can earn additional bucks every month. A new Question: “what do you love mostly about your partner?” Kiona Dawghoused 3 years ago Life without my husband was a real mess for me and my children. i wanted a dramatic change and I thought love spell could be the solution. After discussing the resolution with Him, he gave me hope that he will restore my marriage. I felt confident that he will actually make my husband to return home and he did! It’s fantastic what this great spell caster has done for me, his help is priceless! I don’t know what I would have done without his help, He does his job so well he is organized and highly functional, i believe he is the best service to use i can count on when it comes to restoring relationship, I was floored that his worked was perfect, if you need help,______________Robinsonbuckler { @ hotmail . } com Whitney Houghen 3 years ago wow I love these questions for couples. I have been married for over a year now and I have been thinking of a way to bond with my husband. This will come in handy when we have our date night Hello, every time i used to check webpage posts here in the early I like someone also. But that person does not know that I like him? So what can I do. If you have any ideas please tell me. Thanks to my father who told me about this web site, this webpage is in fact amazing. Hi there to all, because I am genuinely keen of reading this blog’s post to be updated daily. Elena Leblanc 2 years ago These a really good questions, great. We enjoyed it. It is a little bit like groozers we also liked a lot.
My partner and I live in different cities working. We are having trust issues and she is asking for a break up. We have a child together so i want to marry her early next year 2021. Now she told me she is not ready yet for me to go and see her parents. What should I do ? Yo, man. Just do what she says. I learnt a lady likes to be listened to. Man, just listen to her. what’s something you want to try but dont want to be judged for in the bedroom
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