Show Source: Jessica Lewis/Pexels Christmas is around the corner and, if you haven't finished your holiday shopping for the kids, now is the time to get that done! That stress of finding gifts a few days before Christmas should be avoided at all costs. Believe me, because I've learned that lesson at least a dozen times. If you have kids, particularly boys, video games are often at or near the top of their wish list. If you are like me and my wife, you probably have mixed feelings about supporting, indulging, or encouraging their gaming. My wife and I have three boys (ages 7, 12, and 15), so we are in the thick of it. As a psychologist who has worked with kids, teens, and families for over 20 years and the author of a book on this topic, Tech Generation: Raising Balanced Kids in a Hyper-Connected World, I can say that there are no easy answers to this dilemma. However, I'm going to offer a few tips that might help. Is Playing Video Games Bad for Kids?First, you might have some hesitations about getting video games or a console for kids because they might be "bad" for kids. Are they? The short answer to this question is "no." Video games can be an enjoyable pastime for kids and adults, and there is no evidence that video games are inherently harmful to kids. In fact, there is research indicating that video games can offer many cognitive benefits to players. Now, there is still some debate about the effects of video game violence on kids. However, in general, kids and adults will not become more violent from being exposed to the typical violence found in video games. A great book on this subject is Moral Combat: Why the War on Violent Video Games is Wrong by Dr. Patrick Markey and Dr. Christopher Ferguson. This isn't to say that it's just fine for 5-year-olds to play M-rated video games (those rated as only appropriate for people 17 years and older) such as Call of Duty Black Ops 4 or Red Dead Redemption 2. Just as we wouldn't let our little youngsters watch pornography or slasher movies, we don't want our young kids exposed to content that is inappropriate for their developmental level. It's, of course, unethical to conduct such studies, but let's agree that it's best to err on the side of caution here. My greater concern with video games is the amount of time kids playing them, and the related struggles that result from trying to set reasonable limits. I cover this in my previous blog post, "Is Fortnite Ruining Your Kid?" For the most part, kids aren't really going to experience any noteworthy harm from playing an hour or two of video games per day. Many (most?) can probably play much more than this without any observable ill-effects. They are even going to be just fine if they occasionally "binge" and play 5-6 hours at a time (or more) on weekends and holidays. The amount of time does become problematic for a percentage of kids who are playing so many hours that they are significantly neglecting sleep, schoolwork, physical activity, and in-person social interactions. That's what we need to be most concerned about as parents. Tips on Buying Video Games and Consoles
The Takeaway?A video game console/video games can make great Christmas gifts. For the most part, the pros will outweigh the cons. However, there is a bit of a "Pandora's Box" element to them, so be sure to think carefully about a purchase decision, especially if buying your first console. If you have a partner, it's important to have some thoughtful discussions about this ahead of time to ensure that you are both on the same page. It's great to spend time playing video games with our kids as they can be a bonding experience and great fun for the whole family. However, we need to be sure to balance screen time with other enjoyable off-screen games and activities. This means we need to unplug from our devices! It's critical that we ensure that our kids get to experience many fun, off-screen activities, like board and card games. When our kids sink their teeth into the fun that can be experienced with these off-screen games, they will internalize the reality that some of the best fun we can ever have can be with each other in person. Once they have built up enough of those real-world experiences, they will be drawn back to them. Ultimately, we want them to realize that video games are just one of many activities that they can enjoy in life. What is a good age to start video games?But generally, for kids between two to five years, the recommendation is just one hour of "high quality" media (including video games) a day with side-by-side supervision. "Over the age of six, it's very open," she says.
Is gaming good for 12 year olds?Video games can improve children's learning, health, and social skills. Both children and adults enjoy playing video games. There's research that shows there's a benefit to playing video games. There's also research that implies video games could lead to disrupted sleep, media addiction, and violent behavior.
Is Roblox okay for a 6 year old?There is no official age that kids can play Roblox, but Common Sense Media rates the platform safe for users 13+ "based on continuing challenges with problematic content.
Are video games OK for kids?Can Playing Video Games Be Good for Kids? Some games might improve kids' hand–eye coordination and problem-solving skills. Video games that require kids to move or manipulate the game through their own physical movement can get sedentary kids moving — but not as much as if they actually played outside or did sports.
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