What does it mean when you cant stop thinking about your crush

When you can’t stop thinking about someone, it can quickly become annoying. Whether you are thinking about a crush or really dislike your boss, these thoughts can keep reappearing when you least expect them. Because you think about the person so much, they hold an out-sized hold on your subconscious mind and may reappear in your dreams as well. From thinking about them constantly through the day to dreaming about them at night, you need to find a way to escape from these constant, reoccurring thoughts.

What Does It Mean When You Can’t Stop Thinking About Someone?

If the person that you are thinking about is your crush, then it probably means that you are interested in them. Chemical changes occur in your brain when you start to fall for a crush. These changes mean that you are thinking about them constantly and feel nervous when you are around them. Even if your crush does not like you back, it does not stop your thoughts from turning to them all the time.

What If You Don’t Like That Person?

In some cases, you can’t stop thinking about someone because you dislike them. For many people, this is a boss or a family member that just annoys you. Everything that they do just reminds you over and over again that you dislike them. Your mind goes into a frustration circle where it keeps returning to the detail that bothered you so much. Unfortunately, this type of thought pattern can become unhealthy. Before long, your constant thoughts about the person become obsessive and you can’t think about anything else.

Ways to Stop Obsessive Thoughts

When you can’t stop thinking about someone, then you may have a problem with obsessive thoughts. This type of problem is often addressed with cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT). This type of therapy helps you to naturally channel your thoughts and change your normal behaviors.

One technique that is used is to imagine a large movie screen. On that screen, project the person or activity that you continue to think about all the time. As you think about this stressful image, suddenly tell yourself stop or have someone else say stop. This interrupts your thought patterns briefly. Doing it just once is not enough though. You need to keep doing the same process multiple times until you automatically want to say the word “stop” when you reach a certain point in your thoughts. Once you can do this successfully, you can start using the same technique in your daily life to get yourself to stop thinking about the one person constantly.

Do Constant Thoughts Mean That You Love That Person?

In some cases, thinking about someone all of the time means that you have some type of attraction to them. This is not always the case though. There are many reasons why you could find yourself stuck in thoughts of someone else. In some cases, you may even hate the person.

Other reasons why you cannot stop thinking of someone is because you are attracted to them, have fallen in love or hate them. They could be your mentor, so you think about them a lot. It is also possible that that person is just especially funny or interesting, so you think about them all of the time.

You are the best person to decide what these constant thoughts mean. If you feel like you have fallen for them, then you may be in love or have a crush on them. If you feel hurt when they are absent or wish that you could be around them all of the time, then your thoughts may be due to a crush. If you feel repulsed by the thoughts, then they may be due to a deep-seated hatred or dislike of the person. By analyzing the thoughts and how you feel, you can figure out what is potentially causing these thoughts to occur.

This person cold also just be someone who helps you out or who treats you like family. They could be someone who changes your life or motivates you to succeed. It is also possible that the person just appeared in the dream, and the dream caused you to think about them constantly. In some cases, you don’t even know who the person is. They could have been in the dream randomly, so you don’t know if they even exist in the real world.

If you dislike thinking about this person all the time, try picking up a hobby. Staying busy will help your thoughts turn to other, more useful topics. Watch TED talks, read a book or pick up a new hobby. Writing in a journal each day can also help you work through your thoughts and figure out what is going on. With enough time, these thoughts will eventually go away.

It can feel ultra delicious to have a crush. You've got a new cute person to look at and wonder about. They're a juicy tidbit you can add to the group chat. And there's all this sparkly, butterfly-inducing potential every time you interact with them. (I'm speaking as a Libra, aka a serial crusher.) But for whatever reason, you might find yourself wondering how to stop thinking about your crush.

It's possible there are aspects to your crush that aren't so delicious, like the fact they're already in a (monogamous) relationship. You two might have had a "moment" — a kiss, a hookup, or a warm exchange of affection — but they don't seem super keen on taking things further. Maybe they're distracting you from your academic or professional goals. Or perhaps they straight-up told you that they see you as just a friend and that's that. And now you're stuck with feelings you really wish you didn't have.

In a sense, it is harder to get over a crush you've been obsessing over rather than someone you've dated and with whom the relationship has run its course. "I think it's common to feel hung up on someone you've never actually dated if you were infatuated with them," relationships expert Demetrius Figueroa told Elite Daily. "Infatuation by its nature is intense and intense feelings are hard to get rid of — whether you dated someone or not." So, how do you make your feelings less intense? Here are three solid ways you can start getting over your crush.

Embrace The Idea That You're Better As "Just Friends"

It will probably be an uncomfortable process, but embracing the idea of a platonic future with your crush (or one without them, at all) is crucial to getting over them. Dr. Martha Tara Lee, a clinical sexologist and founder of Eros Coaching, says that the "17-second rule," wherein all it takes is 17 seconds of positive visualization to shift your mindset. What does a future without your crush look like? What kinds of new friends or crushes do you want to make room for in your heart? Writing this down helps.

Try to keep in mind the benefits to remaining just friends. There's no need to turn to hate or negativity, but consider qualities in the other person that might not make them the best partner for you. Etiquette and relationships expert April Masini told Elite Daily, "When you can articulate the losses, it's easier to gain a perspective beyond feelings." This applies to breakups between romantic partners just as much as it does to the one-sided breaking up you do when you're getting over a crush.

Consider, too, that maybe, if you'd gotten together, you would have ended up breaking up anyway." It's much easier to get over the idea of dating someone you've already dated because you know how things went and why things went wrong," Figueroa said. Even if you think you'd be perfect together, there might be things about your crush (that there's no way of knowing, unless you're dating) that might make them a bad romantic fit.

Confront Your Feelings

Along with envisioning a new future, sit with all your feelings — even the not-so-pleasant ones, like hurt and disappointment. "Painful as it is, it is better to feel fully as part of the process of healing as opposed to suppressing, repressing and avoiding feeling," Lee told Elite Daily. Dr. Gary Brown, a relationship therapist, also said that giving yourself time to acknowledge how you feel is a critical part of moving on. "Allow yourself to feel sad, to cry, to simply grieve the loss of something that could have been," Dr. Brown said. But don't get stuck dwelling on the what-if's.

Easier said than done, right? Well, that brings us to the next tip...

Don't Check In On Your Crush's Social Media

The ability to have insight into our friends and faves' lives on the daily? A gift, truly! But that blessing turns into a curse when there are people who you shouldn't be checking up on — exes, haters, et cetera — for your own sake. As Masini has said, "It's too easy to become an amateur stalker... That's a method of staying engaged, which won't help you get over your heartache."

So, don't do it. I know you want to look at your crush's cute lil face and check out what they're up to and daydream about being together. But don't! It's a trap that will only make you feel worse about the situation. You could unfollow them, or take the less controversial route and mute them in the mean time.

Re-frame Them As An Ideal Friend

Again, there's no need to be overwhelming negative toward your crush if you're trying to leave your romantic feelings behind. Instead, just focus on the qualities that make them a great addition to your crew. Take the romance out of your interactions. See their friendliness (or even flirtiness) for what it truly is — being nice.

There's a reason you were drawn to them in the first place and I'm willing to bet that each of those qualities are things you'd look for in any friend. And yeah, they might be... hot. But hot people need friends, too. And if you're up for it, you're probably a good fit for the task.

If you're dealing with a crush you can't shake, good luck (again, coming from a serial crusher). It might be hard on the front end, but the more mindful you are of interactions with them, the easier it will be long-term.

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