What to let go of to be happy?

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Picture this…

Every day is a weekend where you can do whatever you want to do and you’re not dependent on the other (be it a person, place, event, situation, that damn alarm clock, action, money, or a thing) — in other words, personal freedom.

Hot dang Happy New Year.

Two things happen when you read that –

• you know that you have the power to make things happen because you understand that happiness often comes from within.
• or, you’d think: “This mentality can actually make some people (me for example) unmotivated and lazy. It just makes you step back into your comfort zone. 🤷🏻‍♀️ You should have a goal and success should be your only option.” Personally, you would feel rather guilty for creating space for yourself. 

The second one, my dear, is very common for most of us. It’s a perfect example of addiction to hustling and struggling. At least when we’re busy, we can pat ourselves on the back and say, “Hey, look I’m working hard. Looks like the day’s over at five o’clock!”

As a reward, we celebrated the beautiful phenomenon known as summer vacation.

There’s a common belief that a large majority of our lives must be hard work just so we can have a couple of sweet breaths of play and freedom. That’s why the right path in life is slaving away at a 9-5 until you can retire old and exhausted. Once you reach retirement, only then you can have your freedom.

I’m not lying. One of my copywriting clients — I just finished writing a biography book for him — told me that he worked his a** off because he wanted to start living at the age of 60. Say what!?

To save you from a whole multitude of regret and heartache, let me share a secret I found after I did what he did and fell into depression years ago.

You were born with freedom; no one gives it to you. You don’t have to wait for anything to be happy. Whether it’s Monday or Saturday, you have freedom.

But…

We grew up waiting for the last bell to ring, and the school deludes you into believing that you must earn your freedom.

Play and work don’t have to be exclusive. It’s up to you to craft your lifestyle around both. You don’t need to be bound by a 9-5 or anything.

When I say every day is a weekend above, I’m not saying that you shouldn’t take action. But inspired actions are coming from a place of inner power and clear reason, not because you tell yourself that “you have to, or should do, something.” If you notice, it immediately brings up resistance and steals your ability to be happy.

If you want to be happy, there are certain stubborn behaviors that we need to let go so they don’t get in the way of our happiness.

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Now I’m about to give you….

88 Things To Let Go of To Be Happy.

My late dad used to tease me, “Things that no longer serve you can’t be sold anyway. Why don’t you get rid of those things?”

Yes, I used to hold on to things that I should have let go of. Me and other 7.8 billion people living on Earth.

The funny thing is, having limiting thoughts and feelings can become a bad habit even though it’s no longer serves us. They are our greatest source of suffering.

We tend to hold on to things — yes, suffering is so familiar, isn’t it? — because the mind is not very good at processing reality and much more likely to pay attention to what’s wrong than what’s right — we call it the negativity bias.

“The mind is a superb instrument if used rightly. Used wrongly, however, it becomes very destructive.”

Moral of the story: Don’t believe everything that your mind is telling you – especially if it’s negative and self-defeating.

Negative thinking happens to all of us, but if we recognize it and allow that to pass through awareness, we are taking a big step toward a happier life.

Remember, no need to stop negative thoughts. Telling yourself, “I have to stop thinking about this,” or, “I have to change my thinking!” only makes you think about it more.

What you resist, persist.

Instead, welcome your thoughts. When you are in a negative cycle, acknowledge it.

If you think, “I’m worrying about my financial situation,” allow yourself to welcome the sounds in your head without engaging with it. If you don’t hold on to it, it will be calmer, and then stop by itself.

Ready to experience more joy and fulfillment than ever before? Here we go.

88 Things To Let Go of To Be Happy

“We are conditioned to deliberately sacrifice joy in the moment, for the sake of rewards in the future that we believe will bring us happiness.

However, when you arrive at your future, you’re still unhappy because you’re always looking for another point at which you will be happy and satisfied.

It’s the quality of your present moment now, that determines the quality of your future because your future also happens in the present.“

Let Go to Have A Purposeful, Happy, Harmonious Life

Letting go is a skill that every person needs to have to create a fulfilling life.

When it comes to our best self, it’s natural to set goals and have more. But becoming a better you is about removing, not adding.

Too often, we try to move forward without letting go, plunging on that quest to our best or true self without first assessing whether our first step forward should actually a step back.

I’m speaking of those toxic habits and behaviors that prevent us from becoming who we were created to be.

Consider coaching

We’re certainly happier when we learn how to let go of our obstacles. When you’re faced with a problem, think about what got you through something similar in the past. If you really examine your past, you move on after you let go.

If you feel like you’re hitting a brick wall, consider speaking with a healing coach on a weekly basis. You don’t need to have a diagnosed mental health condition or an overwhelming crisis to seek coaching.

Coaches are trained to help people improve their life. Plus, there’s no obligation to continue once you start.

Even just a few sessions can help you add some new goodies to your emotional toolbox.

Worried about the cost? Here’s how to afford coaching on any budget.

Nobody can make you unhappy, no situation can make you sad or miserable unless you allow it to. It’s not the situation that triggers those feelings in you, but how you choose to look at it.

And if you have trouble to see that, I can help you with that.

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I’m looking forward to supporting you to continue to let go of the things that do not serve you and to embrace things coming to you that are perfect for you in the moment. Everyone wins when you stay in this course.

In the wonderful words of Jason Mraz, “You don’t need a vacation when there’s nothing to escape from.”

Now you.

What are the things you need to let go of to be happy, right here, right now?

Let me know in the comment below.

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