Eight weeks before your wedding comes the day when you send out invitations (talk about making it feel real!). You've tackled the wedding invitation wording on the card, and now it's time to figure out how to address wedding invitations on the outside. That's right—there's even etiquette for how to address an envelope. Show
Before you head to the post office, you'll want to be sure to properly address the inner envelopes and outer envelopes. When you start addressing wedding invitations, you might start wondering which person should be listed first on the invitation? What if the invitation is to a whole family, including children? To help, we've put together an easy wedding envelope-addressing guide. To a Married Couple With the Same Last NameFor a heterosexual couple, use "Mr." and "Mrs." and spell out the husband's first and last name. For a same-sex couple, either name can go first.
Many modern women may have a strong aversion to having their name left out and lumped in with their husbands. If you are a couple that is sensitive to this:
To a Married Couple With Different Last NamesFor a heterosexual couple, write their names on the same line with the woman's name first; if the combined names are too long to fit on one line, list them separately.
To a Married Couple With One Hyphenated Last NameIn the case of a spouse who has chosen to hyphenate their last name, then they should be addressed using the following:
To an Unmarried CoupleInvitations to a couple who are unmarried but live at the same address are addressed to both people on one line. List the person whom you are closest to first.
To a Single FemaleUse "Ms." if she is over age 18. If she is younger, then "Miss" is the acceptable choice; it should be spelled out, not abbreviated as an initial.
To a Single MaleUse "Mr." if he is over 18. Otherwise, no title is necessary.
To a Married Couple, One of Whom Is a DoctorIf the combined names are too long to fit on one line, list them separately. Spell out "doctor" on the outer envelope, and abbreviate it on the inner.
To a Married Couple, Both of Whom Are DoctorsIn the case of married doctors, it is proper to use: "The Doctors."
In the case of married doctors and one has chosen to hyphenate: If both titles don't fit on one line, indent the second line.
To a Couple With Distinguished Titles Other Than DoctorsApply the same rules for military personnel, judges, reverends, etc., that you use for doctors. If both titles don't fit on one line, indent the second line. And remember that whichever half of the couple "outranks" the other (say, a doctor, member of the military, or some other profession that includes a title) goes first, regardless of gender.
If you’re addressing someone who is an attorney, use “Esq.” after their name. Example: John Smith, Esq. To a Family, Including ChildrenWhen inviting an entire family, the family name or the parents' names should be listed alone, and everyone can be included on the inside. When including female children under the age of 18, address them with a Miss.
Addressing Wedding Invitations for a Casual WeddingYou might be wondering, "What if my wedding isn't going to be that formal? Do I still have to make the wedding invitations formal?" Well, when it comes to addressing wedding invitations for a more casual event, we understand the temptation to just use first names, or first and last names without titles. While this isn't traditional, if the vibe is really backyard barbecue or picnic in the park, you may be able to get away with it. But this is definitely the right time to use more formal wording for older or more conservative guests—they may not notice that you were being particularly respectful, but they definitely will if they feel that you were too informal! |