How to Give Her Absolute Pleasure review

Men need help! They are often expected to "just know" how to please a woman, while women are frequently reluctant to say what they really want. This book is a sex guide written especially for men. It is packed with tips on creating the ideal romantic atmosphere, finding her elusive erogenous zones, and mastering the delicate art of foreplay. Written by "sexpert" Lou Paget, this refreshingly honest guide tells men all they need to know.

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Praise for How To Give Her Absolute Pleasure: Totally explicit techniques every woman wants her man to know

• ''Women are like golf courses'' writes sex educator Lou Paget. ''Even though you may have played a course a hundred times, chances are your approach shot rarely lands in the same place on the green''. How to Give Her Absolute Pleasure was written for men who want to please women. Much of the book focuses on foreplay (Paget comments that we need to rename it) designed to ''excite both her mind and her body''. The author offers a variety of strategies for romancing and relaxing a woman and making her feel comfortable. If you don't, she claims, ''nothing you can do can rev her engine''. Then she describes ways of ''kissing her, touching her, and teasing her.'' Paget includes ''a topographical guide'' of a woman's body, starting with the sensual areas of the head and face and moving down. She describes ways to massage, caress, lick, kiss, and otherwise excite all these regions. She also discusses lubricants (''slippery, slidy, marvellous stuff''), condoms, manual stimulation, ''the art of tongue,'' sex toys, and a variety of positions (clearly illustrated) for everything you might do. The book is in no way formulaic--in fact, Paget continually stresses that some women love having a particular body part touched in a certain way, while others can't stand it. Whether you're a novice or consider yourself sexually sophisticated, you'll learn plenty from Paget. - Joan Price, AMAZON.CO.UK REVIEW

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2.0 out of 5 stars Good and original, but good parts not original and original parts not good :)
Reviewed in the United States on August 13, 2019

Most of the good content has been lifted directly from the book "The Sensuous Man - By J" and re-written in different words. The author has added some of her own material which, unfortunately, is just fluff, serving more as fillers without adding any value. Much better to read the original book, The Sensuous Man - By J

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Reviewed in the United States on June 11, 2002

This is the first book I have read by Lou Paget, but it will not be the last. And I would buy this book again if a buddy swiped it. Now for the rest of you that likes to know what is inside a book. The book has nine chapters and is 234 pages long, 240 counting the Bibliography. The Chapters for the most part are not named as listed below, but to tell about the chapter in a few words.
Chapter One: covers a bit about how the author got into this and why she wrote the book, and that she will coach you to mutual bliss. It then goes on to explain some of the misconceptions of sex. Basically, empty your glass of the knowledge you think you have and she will fill it with new knowledge.
Chapter Two: Covers: Safety, Choosing a condom, Types of, and Information Resources.
Chapter Three: Covers what your mother tried to teach you, how to court the lady, and the first stages of foreplay. Then it gets into how to relax her and how to get her mind off of work, ect.
Chapter Four: How to: "Kiss Her, Touch Her, Tease Her" this covers the whole body including massaging and a little bit of Reflexology, foot massaging and the pressure points in the foot.
Chapter Five: Covers her action spots, ways to touch her, and lubrication.
Chapter Six: "The Art of Tongue: Leading a Woman to Rapture"
Chapter Seven: Types of Toys
Chapter Eight: Types of Miss O. even a few pages on Mr. O.
Chapter Nine: Making connections, positions for intercourse, and positions while pregnant.
First off I like knowing who is going to try and teach me something, and I respect that she came right out with the safety stuff. Better there than at the end of the book when it is too late. I am even going to try a couple of the different condoms. My mother was raised in the south so I got an earful of the first half of Chapter Three, just some good ole common sense. The make her relax and listen to her, did get old. I wanted to say "but what about me?" This book is about pleasing her remember? Chapter Four: Again What about me?? Heck, if you feel that way, get into the tub or shower with her. If your in good shape maybe she will enjoy giving you a massage (headed to the gym BRB). Chapter Five: My High School Biology books did not cover this in this much detail. I have seen this covered in a few other books and some of the nicer instructional books did not cover this part of the female anatomy as well. But the location of the G-spot should have been shown as well as being written. Chapter Six: What can I say? It has stuff that I knew, stuff that I did with out thinking about it, and stuff that I will try. Chapter Seven: Covers a range of toys that might be fun to have in your toy box, enough said. Does not cover S&M or B&D toys. Chapter Eight: Covers Types of Miss O., the female cycle, timing, and Mr. O. Chapter Nine: A good sampling of positions, and for some positions explained some of the advantages for that position.
Almost every section has pointers some are pretty vague i.e. some women like this while others hate it. Give the writer a break this is written for millions of woman out there. Just take one to the Ice Cream store and see what she likes, see what I mean? Low blow, but I am trying to have fun isn't that what sex is about?

Reviewed in the United States on December 20, 2008

How to Give Her Absolute Pleasure has been, well, a pleasure to read!
It is full of useful information, coupled with little gems and informative diagrams to back-up the "theory" side of pleasure.

Unfortunately, the writing style is quite strange. It mostly refers to "In my seminars..." "... a woman from Chicago said". Which not only is quite annoying (giving "factual" information while keeping the source anonymous) but also very inefficient. Being a University student, I am trained to see references of information like this as dubious at best.

The amount of information presented for the points made are greatly inconsistent. For example, a particular way a sex toy works has large amounts of detail, with backup "proof" (more "... a woman said") covering many pages, while a unique position which is spoken about as though it is much more important, is given only a single dot point on a page.

Finally, for anyone outside the US, many pages in the book are wasted on listing places to buy sex toys, etc, in US shops.

Besides the literary failings, the core content is VERY good, especially for people who are looking for a guide to making love as opposed to just having sex.

Reviewed in the United States on October 4, 2004

This book is "interesting" it makes broad (pun intended) general assertions. There was nothing really new in it. Anybody who has had a decent relationship since the 1960's probably knows the majority of what she has to offer. There are better books out there... Don't get me wrong...it's not a bad book if you know nothing...other than 1 position....and don't care about your partner's pleasure...but the information she presents was very basic. No real technique or helpful hints. Maybe that's the way it is suppose to be...since every woman is different...and each has her own "orgasmic fingerprint"... maybe one can only offer broad suggestions...but there wasn't very much meat to this book. The Author takes the perspective that most men are insensitive...and only care about penal entry... but it wasn't too over the top as to be offensive in my opinion.

So...take it with a grain of salt... I would suggest another book...or at least go and look at in the store first..before buying it here. The price reduction makes the purchase here much easier to swallow.

Best wishes...and happy hunting...for knowledge.

Reviewed in the United States on October 6, 2014

I was seeking a book that would show me, with non-eroticized drawings, how to touch a vagina. Of the 5 books I purchased, this was the only one that contained any such section, and is the only one I did not return. However that section is relatively small, which is why I didn't give it 5 stars.

Reviewed in the United States on February 12, 2001

This book really helps a man set the stage for lovemaking. The book is a little short on actual technique but one of her main arguments is that if you prepare a woman properly then your technique is secondary.
There are lots of little things in this book that almost every man is going to overlook and yes they do "work" when you actually do them. She could, however, have spent more time on "atypical" women who may be more into technique than mood sometimes (yes such women do exist despite what Lou believes).

Reviewed in the United States on August 25, 2020

I got this for my partner because it sounds like a graphic , detailed explanation. Unless you are dating a child or a trump supporter this is remedial at best. I was embarrassed to get this for my man.

Reviewed in the United States on June 21, 2019

Reviewed in the United States on November 16, 2016

I have never read anything about sexuality so specific. It's a good book that leaves nothing to the imagination but spells out everything about the sexual act in detail. What understanding and enlightenment we have received, including great things and positions to try out.