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Be aware of the signs that he no longer sees a future with you in it. Joshua Ness, CC0, via Unsplash He Will Make the Effort If He Is Interested!Ladies, I've said this over and over again—men are not as complicated as we think. If he is interested in a future with you, he will make the effort for that to happen . . . period! Why is the concept that a man will do everything possible if he's interested in a future—aka marriage—so hard for women to believe? Maybe it is because giving reasons to the contrary makes us feel better. What a woman wants to believe that she's not "good enough" for a guy, or that he doesn't see spending the rest of his life (which is statistically usually shorter than hers) with her? Usually, we hang on to the bad relationships or sugarcoat the facts because it's ego-crushing, heartbreaking, disappointing, and frankly depressing to think any differently. Many women would rather be in a stagnant relationship than no relationship at all. Why?! Has the thought of being alone become so repellant that we convince ourselves that we would rather be with someone—even if the relationship will never progress to the next level? This unhealthy story we tend to tell ourselves (and our friends) might seem less painful than the truth, but is it? The older you get, the harder it is to find true love. Why would you spend your time—months, possibly years, with a guy who is giving signs of no permanent future? If you really want marriage, then holding on to a guy who doesn't have the same vision will only prolong what you want. I have many friends that are happily married, and they all have the same story about how their boyfriends (at the time) worked hard to make them feel special—knowing that they were "the one" and making them their wives. These men put the "w" in wooing and "c" in chivalry. As one of my friends said, "He always did the little things to show me he cared." Another friend stated, "He never played games. He always showed and communicated how much he cared—I always felt important no matter what was going on in his life." Feeling important in a man’s life should never feel secondary if he honestly wants to build a relationship with you. A guy who sees a future with you won't play games; e.g., waiting days or weeks to call, or using the "busy" speech for why he can't possibly make the time to see you. Just like a lot of things when it comes to men, if you get out of la-la land and take notice of his actions, you will realize that there are signs that a permanent future is not in the cards for you. Sorry. But, luckily, for every man who does not see you as a long-term partner, there are many more men who could possibly be the right fit. 50 Signs He's Doesn't See a Future With You
There are many more signs; however, these are some of the top ones. Are you realizing these signs and being honest with yourself, or are you making excuses to prolong the inevitable heartbreak? Obviously, like most lists, if only one or two situations on this list have happened, and you haven't been dating very long, it might not be a total disastrous dating situation to give up on. But, if several things on this list have resonated with you—buyer beware! Life is too short to be hanging on to Mr. Wrong! Don't Be Fooled By What He Says, Look at What He DoesWhen a man invests in you emotionally, mentally, physically, and financially—then he's truly invested in you for the long term. This does not mean that you should expect him to be your sugar daddy or that you should never do things to also make him feel special. It means that a man who cares and can see forever will want to pull out all the stops to keep you and make you feel special. If he has stopped doing those things or he has never done them, that is a clear indication that his interest in you as a long term partner is not there. Ladies, communication is always important, however many men have a hard time with it. For many men, their communication technique is through their actions and how they treat you. If you think your relationship isn't going to the next level, it's probably not. Instead of hanging on to a relationship that is going nowhere, find a new one with a guy that only sees a long, bright, loving future together. Remember, a guy who really wants to be with you will move heaven and earth to do so. Learn to read a man's actions for what they are. His actions will make it clear that he does not see a future with you. What are the signs of a relationship without a future?8 Signs That Your Current Relationship Has No Future. Your partner can't accept you for who you are. ... . You can't accept your partner for who they are. ... . You struggle to handle each other during the hard times. ... . Your needs are not being met by your partner. ... . You are not at the same place mentally.. What is pocketing in a relationship?Stashing—sometimes referred to as pocketing—is when one person in a relationship makes the conscious decision to hide the other person from his or her inner circle, and yes, that includes both in real life and on social media.
How do you end a relationship which has no future?Just because you're falling out of love, doesn't mean it's going to be an easy end.. Focus on why you see no future. ... . Accept it. ... . Don't let your bad lover affect you emotionally. ... . Face reality. ... . Allow your mind to stray.. How do I deal with an unmotivated boyfriend?5 things you can do to make him less lazy. Communicate gently. Talk to him about how you feel, and let him know how much happier things could be if both of you could work towards the improving the relationship. ... . Get your own life. ... . You can't change him. ... . Take baby steps. ... . If you can't beat him, join him!. |