For people who recoil with awkwardness at the prospect of being hugged, life can sometimes be challenging and awkward. Show
You never know when someone you're not familiar with that well will decide that, yes, today is the day to wrap their arms around you. In this situation, you don’t have much choice but to grin and bear it, or try to deflect somehow – perhaps with an air kiss or handshake. But regardless of whether you’re partial to a hug or not, new research has given us the scientific low-down on why some people hate hugging. Why people love or hate hugging.According to experts, upbringing may be key to a person’s opinion on hugging. Suzanne Degges-White, a professor of counselling and counsellor education at Northern Illinois University, says:
A 2012 study found that people who were raised by huggers were more likely to continue this tradition. The study also stated that “hugging is an important element in a child’s emotional upbringing”. Degges-White suggests that people who weren’t hugged by their parents often as children may feel uncomfortable at the thought of hugging.
Though, perhaps confusingly, growing up without frequent hugging can have the opposite effect.
There’s also a cultural element to this issue. People in the America and England hug and touch much less than people in France or Puerto Rico, according to a 2010 study. How huggers should interact with people who are hug avoidant.It’s wise to skip hugging with people unless you are genuinely close with them and have established a more tactile bond. While you might be comfortable with this, not everyone feels the same. Samantha Hess, a “professional cuddler” and founder of an Oregon-based service that teaches people how to be more tactile, says it’s important to be mindful of other people’s body language.
She adds that it can take a long time for people to feel comfortable enough to enjoy hugging with a new person - if they ever get there at all. How to overcome your aversion to hugs.Of course there’s nothing wrong with you if you don’t like hugging, and no one should ever feel pressured into touching people if they don’t want to. But for those wanting to learn to love the simple embrace, Hess has a few tips:
Sometimes it’s also about pushing through things and learning that a hug might not be so bad after all.
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