What does it mean if your boyfriend doesnt post you?

My boyfriend and I have been together for a year, but our social media has no indication of our relationship. He doesn't feel comfortable posting about me but posts about all other aspects and friends in his life. (As a result I rarely post anything about him.) Am I being overdramatic? Is it silly to care about social media? Does he not respect me? Should I break things off with him and just remain friends?

Should you break up with your boyfriend just because he doesn't post your photos on social media? Of course not.

This should not be the defining issue of your relationship, but it's not a silly worry either. Social media can be superficial, ridiculous, and just plain stupid sometimes, but it's part of our identity now, it's part of how we present ourselves publicly, and it does matter — especially if it's hurting your feelings.

I'm not saying there's nothing going on here. If you've been dating for a year and he's posting pictures of everyone but you, that does seem odd. But, before you break up with him, try talking to him first, OK? Tell him how you feel and ask him why it makes him uncomfortable to share pictures of you online.

There are so many reasons why a guy might choose to keep his dating life private. The worst-case scenario? You're not the only girl he's seeing — and maybe not the only one who's wondering why she's not on Facebook. He could be flirting with other women or hiding you because he's hung up on an ex. Or maybe it's not so bad: Maybe he's not ready to introduce you to his family (who will see you online). Or maybe he just prefers to keep his dating life private. That's his right. And there's nothing wrong with that either.

Whatever's going on, the only way you'll find out is to talk it out IRL.

Do guys think it's weird when we steal their clothes? My boyfriend has the most comfortable shirts and sweatshirts. When we started living together, I started sleeping in his basketball shorts. Shortly after, I started wearing his boxers because they fit as shorts too. He didn't seem angry — in fact, he said it was a reason to buy new [boxers]. But I can't help wondering if I'm crossing some boundaries.

For a lot of guys, myself included, there are few things hotter than seeing a woman sleeping in your clothes. For you, the clothes are comfortable. For us, the gesture is comforting. It's fun to feel so close that you share (part of) a wardrobe.

So steal away. Just don't get carried away. A rule of thumb: So long as you wear your own clothes most of the time, a little theft between lovers is not a big problem.

My boyfriend is a terrible sleeper. He tosses and turns all night, and he claims that he sleeps worse when I am there. Because of this, he only invites me to stay over on the two nights a week that he doesn't have to get up for work in the morning so we can sleep in. I hate leaving him to go home when it's a work night. It makes me wonder how we will ever eventually live together or get married if he hates sharing a bed so much. Is this normal?

I think you could use a little perspective. Have you ever met a man who stayed single for his entire life because he was a light sleeper? I bet not. Guys do not avoid marriage because they toss and turn. He may, indeed, have trouble getting a good night's rest, but I seriously doubt that's the make-or-break issue here.

This isn't just about sleep, is it? It's about space. And it's about setting boundaries.

Let's try a thought experiment: If you remove "sleep" from your question, this is what I hear: Your boyfriend only invites you over two nights a week. You hate that. And it makes you worry that you'll never live together or get married. That's quite a leap, right?

I don't know enough about your relationship to say for sure, but I bet that things are moving fast and he wants to preserve a bit more of his independence. Claiming that he sleeps better without you is the best way he can think of to ask for time to himself — and seems easier than telling you that he needs alone time. (There's an outside chance that he's cheating, but that's not for me to say.) To find out what else is going on, tell him that you do understand that he has trouble sleeping, but you suspect that isn't all that's going on.

Talk to your boyfriend about what you want and need — and tell him, frankly, that if he does want alone time, he doesn't need an excuse. Tell him that you'll respect that. And try to understand why. Then tell him how you feel — and see if you can reach some sort of a compromise. It sounds like all this talk about sleep patterns has been a proxy for the real discussion you need to be having about intimacy. How much time do each of you really want to spend with each other right now? What are your expectations for the future?

Whatever you do, don't spiral into a panic that makes sleep patterns the make-or-break issue of your future marriage. Take a breath. It sounds like you both need to sleep this one off before you talk it out.

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